The feminism phallusy

The fallacy of male feminism.



1. the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

2. an organised movement for the attainment of such rights for women.

3. feminine character.

In order to start writing, I feel I must begin by working one thing out about myself. Am I a feminist?


– I believe that women should have equal social and political rights to men.

– If a woman has various sexual partners she should not be branded a whore.

– If a woman falls pregnant accidentally I believe she has the right to have an abortion.

– Some women are physically (and emotionally) stronger than some men.

– A woman’s role in society is not to have lots of babies and look after them.

– I would have a perfectly adequate life without the presence of male kind. (I realise I would not exist without the presence of male kind…but let’s just say from conception onwards)

– I don’t like being whistled at by builders.


– I like it when a man offers to carry my bags, open doors and pay for dinner.

– I like to wear pretty dresses.

– I sometimes wonder if I’d benefit from a father figure in my life.

– I find men’s protective instinct towards women somewhat comforting.

– I am only attracted to men that are taller than me.

– I wear bra’s and make-up.

– I am not a lesbian.

This has got me no where! I am settling for semi-feminist status.

I have noticed more recently that a few men have been downing the last of their pints, switching off the football, removing their hands from their pants (okay, that’s enough stereotyping) and attempting to jump on the feminist band wagon.

I can‘t help but wonder, is there really any room for them?

There has been a decline in tradition and a rise in stay-at-home fathers. This could be due to a lack of well paying jobs on offer or it could be due to Holly Willoughby’s daily role on This Morning but either way…are stay-at-home fathers feminists?

Masculism, controversially described as the opposite of feminism, is a movement which, unlike feminism which promotes equal rights, stands for male dominance and superiority. The YMCA was originally founded by anti-feminists with the intention of encouraging masculinity and male bonding. The Young Mans Christian Association members must have been fairly confused with the conflicting ideas of religion and anti-feminism. Actually they must have been fairly confused about the Virgin Mary giving birth…anyway, I won’t get into that now. I can see how, for a man it is difficult to please a feminist woman. He either appears weak, emasculated and perhaps slightly feminine himself, or if he attempts to fulfil his traditional gender role he is branded sexist.

In my opinion, men cannot be feminists because of the intrinsic differences between the sexes.

Others argue that men’s identification with the feminist movement is necessary for furthering the feminist causes. A number of feminist writers maintain that identifying as a feminist is the strongest stand men can take in the struggle against sexism against women. They have argued that men should be allowed, or even encouraged, to participate in the feminist movement. Other female feminists argue that men cannot be feminists simply because they are not women. They claim that men are granted inherent privileges that prevent them from identifying with feminist struggles and thus make it impossible for them to identify with feminists. A common idea supporting men’s inclusion as ‘feminists’ is that excluding men from the feminist movement labels it as solely a female task, which is argued to be sexist in itself. They assert that until men share equal responsibility for struggling to end sexism against women, the feminist movement will reflect the very sexist contradiction it wishes to eradicate. The term ‘profeminist’ occupies the middle ground in this semantic debate, because it offers a degree of closeness to feminism without using the term itself. Also, the prefix ‘pro’ characterises the term as more proactive and positive.

In conclusion, men can be anti-sexist and pro-feminism but I do not think a man can actually call himself a feminist.

More to the point, why would he want to?

Dear Man,

Calling yourself a feminist will not help you to attract women. Especially if the reasons behind your feminism is to attract women.

Kind regards,


A man will never know what it is like to live as a woman and a woman will never know what it is like to live life as a man (unless featured on a channel 5 documentary).

Personally, I’d prefer it to stay that way


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